I was recently at a conference. I got a message about an issue and we needed to get on a call to listen to the complaint. Long boring tech story short, it turned out a colleague had made a comment that came off a little more harsh than intended. It came out in later conversation that the colleague that made the comment was having an unimaginably bad day and his emotions boiled over in the wrong way. I don’t know about everyone else, but I know I am also a culprit of misdirected frustrations.

It came up after that conversation, and the details of why the outburst happened, that we have to remember that people are human and we’re more than just our jobs. Without prompting, that same theme happened in multiple other conversations. I heard many times that we have to remember that we are all more than just one thing, and remind ourselves that we and everyone around us are human (and I work in tech! AI is everywhere).

That same messaging should be used for motherhood. Sure we’re all mothers. We’re all chefs and chauffeurs and housekeepers. Every one of us is more than a recent title. We also have to give ourselves and others grace when we aren’t peak performers in a single day. Instead of focusing on the fact we lost our cool way too quickly in a stressful moment, we should take a breath and think about the many other positive things we did that day, or the multiple other events that lead to that moment.

We all do so many things at the same time and the expectations of us as mothers and humans are so insanely high. We need to remember that we are humans - and so are others. We have bad days, we make mistakes, we have misguided anger and frustration. Luckily we have a community of mamas around us to help diffuse bad situations. Stay open and active within our FIT4MOM community. We are human, and sometimes it’s the other humans that help us get through the day. We see you mama! We know you’re a human and you’re awesome at being one!